I met the most amazing woman recently, and in the few short weeks we've been talking, she has changed my entire perspective on my life and my relationship with myself.
Do you ever meet someone and feel as though you've known them forever? Seriously, I can't say enough about how wonderful she is. We have the same sense of humor, we can spend hours and hours talking without ever getting bored, she pushes me to be a better version of myself each and every day, and she asks me questions that stop me dead in my tracks and make me think.
But, I digress. This isn't a blog about how great Katie is (though I'm sure you've noticed that I think she's seriously freaking great).
She and I are working on this amazing free group that we plan to roll out in just a few days. We're both in the industry of helping women learn to love themselves and love their bodies. We talked about what we think women really lack and what tools they need to be their happiest and healthiest. Over the course of planning for this group, she asked me if I was my own best friend.
I paused, then said, "No, but I'd like to be."
That's something I think about often. I think most people know that they need to be their own best friend, their own biggest fan, and their own cheerleader, but it's surprisingly difficult to accomplish. We see in the news and in pop culture that people that are those things for themselves are labeled as selfish, big headed, conceited, self centered, have a big ego and maybe are even unattractive to others because of all of that.
If we can't believe in ourselves, then why would anyone else?
If we can't see our potential, how will anyone else?
If we don't see that we can accomplish amazing, amazing things, how will we ever go anywhere with our lives?
It is so very easy to see your own flaws. After all, you don't get a break from yourself. Spending 24/7/365 with yourself lets you see all the parts of you, good and bad, but it's so easy to focus on just the bad.
I'm too fat. My hair is dull. My skin is wrinkly. I'll never be as smart as such-and-such. I get angry too quickly. I'm talentless. My smile is crooked. And on, and on, and on.
I truly believe that what you put out to the world, you get back. So when you put out "I'm not good enough for reasons A through ," that's what the universe hears, and it's what it sends right back to you. People see you as negative, not living up to your full potential, sad-any number of things.
But how do you change that?
How do you become your own best friend and truly love every ounce of yourself?
Honestly, I don't have the answer. I wish I did! It's something I've been thinking about a ton, and I still don't have an answer, but it is a journey I'm excited to take. I think that small changes, each and every day, constantly working in the direction of achieving self love will get me exactly to where I want to be.
And, before I go, you are amazing. You are talented. You are smart and beautiful and strong. You have unlimited potential and a beautiful smile. You may not believe that just yet, but allow me to plant the seed. Now all you need to do is give it a little water, little attention and some love and watch those things grow.